That is my younger standing up right brother “Martin”. Well, we’re thinking of how to be success in this upcoming 21st Century, and whiles he stands i begin to unveil some secrets, knowledge and proverbs that had been told to me by our ancestors, thus my Great Great Grandma sometimes says that: ” There is a Chinese proverb that says that if you fail to move a step further, you will be standing on one foot for the rest of your life”.
So I the elderly son of our family moreover advices him direct face to face, where as he tells me his mind saying : ” I know there is something I want to do. Certainly, but I don’t know what is actually holding me back. Is it fear, inexperience or the lack of courage to take the bold step to market and sell myself to myself first?” and he continues to say ” I know I waste time anytime I’m idle and it really draws me back but I have this strong conviction that I have something to offer. Then i tell him that ” it’s just how to nurture and polish what I have. It is said that everyone has a pearl within, the problem is how to extract those pearls from their sources and make them glow so others will see what they actually had been unexploited”.
Martin then says ” Whatever holds me back to draw out this pearl, it’s in my head. If you get to read this, understand that I have taken a chance even if it fails, and if it’s a success, understand that I took an opportunity because when I realized I could not figure out how I was going to write this, I figured where and how I got here. I have realized I have said nothing much but I’m up down a hundred and eighty words. I know and believe and can do this as it is said, “believe and you can achieve”.
And now due to the how time changes, I can testify that he’s now entering the Hip – Life music industry here in Ghana. Well big up to my brother and friend Martin a.k.a Nii Blinks…..
Growing up, I always wanted to get into the university, pass out with a better class, acquire a decent job and have a cute little family. If you would remember, back in High School, teachers usually told us to study hard and make it to the university and we’ll be free, enjoy ourselves and free ourselves of the High School stress. I must say that having spent a few years in the university, even though it comes with it’s privileges, there’s a whole part of intense pressure and not like how we took imageries of it as we were told in High School (more so when in ……..). Have you ever encountered asking yourself if you playing 4:0, most especially when you are in 400? I do not really see how people can make a fuss out of this. So I ask, which is best, “grabbing” on campus or otherwise. Opinions are quite diverse on this particular issue, varying from person to person with the majority of people wanting to grab on campus.
How many relationships that root from the universities stem in to marriage? A mediocre number if you care to know. Yet, friends can make mockery of you for not having a partner. It’s a depressing situation. People think of this and end up with wrong people and they actually end up more depressed before they find Mr/Mr.s Right. Why rush into a ship that has a higher probability of sinking before getting to your destination. I don’t see any peculiar need after all “if you rush, you crush”, as my roomie always said.
More of such campus relationships end up as a fun fling because such partners may have known each other, had fun (enjoyment and sex as it’s the norm these days) and may no more be interested in each other thereby initiating a break up of a long time and resource wasting relationship.
Since ladies mature faster than guys, most people get into relationships without considering such vital point. It happens such that after graduation, as they were of the same age and level, mostly the ladies say “I’m growing and I need to get married” while the guys aren’t ready because they have to settle down before thinking of marriage. So there’s a break up and both parties find their way.
There’s certainly a fraction of people who do not get into campus relationships for fear. I realized this as I asked a couple of guys who told me “go and check your bank account and before you ask such a question. Your ATM card is in the best position to answer you”. Clearly there are people who do not get into campus relationships for fear of being duped.
However, there are most girls out there who have graduated without partners and still searching. I have had people tell me that it’s quite difficult to find someone after school, especially ladies go through the toughest of such situations. When every future conscious lady would want to get married soon after graduation and start a family, who would risk beginning her search after school? It is quite evident that hardly a large number of partners from school make it up to marriage.
Somebody once told me that if you cannot make a good class, try to bring a good woman home by the end of your 4 year stay in the university. Well, “the best and optimal place is during your university days, but the truth is that nearly 98% relationships that start in school don’t travel beyond two years after school. To increase your chance of success, spot someone while you are in school, probably someone below your level with a reasonable age difference and ask her out” as said by a colleague. It may work for you, but then if it doesn’t, there’s no rush. You going to find him/her anyway. So whether you “grab” in level 200 or 400 or not at all doesn’t really matter. 4 – Nil is not your GPA.
Cultivate the habit of Reading ohhh my Ghanaian Friends
I have realized that when articles are posted (especially seemingly long ones) people fail to read to the last word. This attitude of Ghanaians is a detriment to the future of Ghana. I’m sure you (reader) are even scrolling down to see if this is also one of those long articles. Just as you’ve found out it is not that long, this piece will engage you as to why you should cultivate the habit of reading.
I admonish myself first and I admonish you to cultivate the habit of reading. Those who write such long articles aren’t any different from you. They just read more and that exploits their innate abilities to do something, say write. It boosts their morale and self-confidence just as yours is rising to a higher level as you read.
Are you still wondering when you will meet the last word of this piece? I actually disagree with the idea of the cliché that says, “If you want to hide something from a black man, put it into writing”. I would want you to believe that it is the thing of the past. Don’t get bored because I wouldn’t make it that long. Your horizon is being broadened and nothing can be hidden from you really if that thing about “blacks” is true. Just so you know, you’ve read close to two hundred and fifteen words in just this few minutes you’ve spent with me. Oscar Wilde, the famous Irish writer once said “It is what you read that determines what you will be when you can’t help it”. It makes you think beyond the obvious. People may think you are controversial but you’re just thinking out of their scope of imagination. Get yourself one step ahead.
A little change begins with a plan. The success of which depends upon several things. That of commitment, passion for one’s course, willingness to embrace a new path, determination to overcome any obstacles, and in some cases even making such unnatural alliances like challenging yourself to read.
I hope by the end of this piece, you will prove J. D. Salinger, the American writer wrong when he said, “What really knocks me out is a book that, when you’re done reading it, you wish the author that wrote it was a terrific friend of yours and you call him up on the phone whenever you felt like it. That doesn’t happen much, though”. Pick up your phone, drop a word or two for the young boy who made you break that chain of not reading.
As written by: Hafiz Laryea
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